It's fascinating how much can shift within a person over a decade. I've noticed that much of the "advice" shared about navigating your twenties often comes from those who feel they've "made it." As someone still on my journey, I wanted to share my reflections on my twenties – the good and the not-so-good – without claiming to have all the answers.

One of my early decisions was to take a break before university. I've seen too many people pursue degrees they never use, and I believe young adults need time to explore their interests without societal pressure. I initially wanted to study architecture, but my father's preference for an "English major" influenced my path. This early experience shaped my understanding of external opinions and my own evolving sense of self.

Eventually, I found my passion in psychology, social psychology, and fine arts. My twenties became a period of defining myself, independent of others' perceptions. I developed a strong sense of self, encapsulated by my personal mantra: "People have opinions about me; only I know my own facts," and "I will not bend to a society that won't bend for me, I won't give in, and I won't give up." While this determination fuelled my drive, it also led to some of my lowest points.

My romantic life was a complex journey. While I longed for a lasting partnership, I also recognized that committing too early might have hindered my personal growth. My twenties were marked by a significant relationship that, though ultimately unfulfilling, taught me invaluable lessons about self-worth and what I truly seek in a partner.

Ultimately, my twenties were about building character. I learned to embrace both my strengths and flaws, recognizing that they contribute to my unique identity. I discovered the importance of fairness, patience, and high standards. While I explored self-help resources, I found that personal experience was the most effective teacher.

If I were to offer any insights, rather than advice, they would be:

• Don't be afraid to pursue your goals, even if the path is uncertain.
• Embrace life's experiences, both good and bad.
• Recognize that setbacks are opportunities for growth.
• Your thirties may focus on financial stability, so use your twenties to build a strong foundation.
• Find inspiration in others' success but avoid harmful comparisons.
• Be selective about what you share with others.
• Focus on earning respect, even if you can't earn everyone's approval.
• Ask thoughtful questions in relationships to understand your partner's intentions.
• Express your love openly.
• Learn from heartbreak and appreciate those who remain in your life.
• Be aware of others' motivations.
• Cultivate a strong sense of self.
• Consider therapy as a tool for self-discovery.
• Save, when possible, but don't let financial concerns define your twenties.
• Invest in continuous learning.
• Practice kindness and assertiveness.
• Build your network and communication skills.
• Don't take life too seriously; embrace its imperfections.
• Accept that challenges are a natural part of life.

As I navigate my thirties, I recognize the importance of reflecting on the past. Taking time for introspection is crucial for personal growth and understanding.